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BlogHer – NaBloPoMo – March 2014

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BlogHer – NaBloPoMo – March 2014

Friday, March 14, 2014
Is it easier for you to work together with other people or to work alone?


For twenty-five years, I worked on assembly lines, where we all had to work together to get the work done. In 2000, my second husband and I created a small business for ourselves. We worked at Art and Craft Shows and had a kiosk in a local mall. We sold items on e-bay and at large ‘flea markets’. We were working together as a team.

When I went to work for the local school system, I was lucky enough that I worked alone, most of the time. I was hired to create a program that had been mandated by law. Basically, I was given the law and told to create a working program around it; and I did. Of course, I had to do a lot of collaborative work, but was mostly given free reign, and a supervisor that backed me.

After a couple of years, I had built a great program. I was very proud of myself for accomplishing this, as I had never done this kind of work before. Unfortunately, I tried to do it all and collapsed under the pressure.

I hope I have learned my lessons and will not make those mistakes again as I embark on my writing career. I enjoy working alone during the quiet of the day. As I have started getting closer to my goal of publishing some of my work, I find myself reaching out to others for tips and techniques. It is nice to post a question and get several different answers and perspectives from writer’s willing to share their experience.

I am thankful for all writer’s that share and try to help fledglings, like myself.

NaBloPoMo ~ January 31, 2014

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Friday, January 31, 2014
Did you feel a lot of pressure with January’s NaBloPoMo?


I thoroughly enjoyed January’s NaBloPoMo. There were some very good prompts that made me really think about the pressure in my life. I enjoyed reading other’s posts and learning how they handled pressure in their lives. I found some good tips, on handling pressure, that I will try to incorporate into my own life.

NaBloPoMo ~ January 30, 2014

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Thursday, January 30, 2014
If you could persuade people to do one thing right now, what would it be?


If I could persuade people to do one thing, right now, it would be to open their eyes to the destruction humanity is wreaking on Mother Earth. People say, “I don’t believe in Global Warming.” All they have to do is take a look at the crazy winter weather we are having this season, to see that something is not right.
The pollution of our waters, the cutting down of trees to make room for malls and more developments, the fracking, and more are all a part of the havoc humanity is wreaking on Mother Earth. How much more can she take?
Think of your children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, etc…What is going to be left for them?
“Seven generation sustainability is an ecological concept that urges the current generation of humans to live sustainably and work for the benefit of the seventh generation into the future. It originated with the Iroquois – Great Law of the Iroquois – which holds appropriate to think seven generations ahead (about 140 years into the future) and decide whether the decisions they make today would benefit their children seven generations into the future.”

NaBloPoMo ~ January 29, 2014

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Wednesday, January 29, 2014
Are you good at influencing other people?


I usually do not try to influence other people, but I do have people tell me that I influenced them, so I may be unconsciously influencing other people.
I don’t argue my points anymore, I just let it be. Other people have the right to believe as they do. It really saddens my heart, when I read my morning news and find that one of the homeless children/teen I had previously worked with, had been arrested for a crime. I had so hoped that I had influenced these homeless children/teens in some way.
Obviously, my influence works better if I do not try.

NaBloPoMo ~ January 28, 2014

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Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Which of your responsibilities stress you out the most?


Several of my responsibilities stress me out. Anything that I don’t want to do stresses me out; being in public, people in general, riding in a car, (I haven’t driven in nearly four years), and having to talk to people, are just a few of my many stressors. I have general and social anxiety and do my best to keep them under cover.
Family fighting is another big stressor for me. I long for happiness and peace and do not do conflict very well at all. I used to fall apart completely when family conflict rose-up it’s leery head. I wanted everyone to be happy and would try to make everyone be happy, but more often than not, the tables would get turned on me and I would fall apart. Now, through several years of therapy, and I think I have the best therapist around, I have learned to step back, not get involved anymore than I have to, and aim for my happiness and peace of mind. I cannot control others and it does no one any good to have a pity party. I turn it over to the ‘powers that be’, and go along my merry, (as merry as I can make it), way.
The biggest stressor of all has to be when my husband is sick. I know I said ‘in sickness and in health’, but come on, I didn’t realize that meant even if he turned into a whiny baby. I have a wonderful husband, don’t get me wrong, but I’m sure there are some of you that can relate. When my husband gets sick, like he has been for four days now, he moans and groans constantly, and I do mean constantly. Even when I’m trying to work, he moans and groans. It is impossible to think with that going on, so I generally give-up, but then I tend to get resentful for having to spend every minute of my day sitting beside him and holding his hand, while he moans nonsense like, ‘I’m going to die,’ ‘The doctor was wrong, I’ve got something else. Take me to the emergency room’. He went to the doctor yesterday, and the doctor said he had a sinus infection and an ear infection. He gave him a shot, a prescription for an antibiotic, and a prescription strength mucinex.
I do the loving, pampering things: get his medicine’s for him and making sure he takes it at the right time, provide him with food and drink when he asks for it, and anything else I can do to make him comfortable. It’s the fact that he wants my total attention when he is sick that stresses me out the most.
On the other hand, he holds me when I fall apart, pets and pampers me in all ways, and looks after me when I’m sick, even though I don’t want anyone near me.
All in all, I guess it is the give and take that makes a good marriage.

NaBloPoMo ~ January 27, 2014

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Monday, January 27, 2014
What puts more pressure on you: time constraints or achieving perfection?


I prefer, for anything I do, to be as close to perfect as possible. In so doing, I often find myself with little time left. That is when I kick into over-drive, which isn’t much anymore, and the pressure of the time constraints loom over my head.
Due to my bad health, I can only perform a task or two, then I have to sit and rest for awhile before I get up and do some more. It takes me three to four days to completely clean my home and get the laundry done. It takes me about an hour to get the dishes unloaded from my dishwasher, rest awhile, then load it back up again. If company is coming, my husband will help me clean, so that it is done in time.
I do most of my cooking in my crockpots. I can get the food cooking in the morning, so that it will be ready by dinner time, without me having to stand over the stove. I don’t do standing very well anymore.
In my writing, I try to start early in the morning, as that is when I’m at my best and can think clearly. Usually, unless it is a very bad day, I will write until lunch. I don’t sit and write for hours at a time; I break it up by getting up and doing a little housework, then go back to writing while I sit and rest.
I enjoy doing the memes, but try not to get involved with a lot of them. This ‘old grey mare just ain’t what she used to be’.

Daily Prompt: Your Days are Numbered and NaBloPoMo ~ January 26, 2014

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Daily Prompt: Your Days are Numbered
by michelle w. on January 26, 2014

It’s January 26. Write a post in which the number 26 plays a role.


Spa Treatment
A Short Story by D. B. Mauldin

Twenty-Six over-weight, out of shape, women over the age of fifty, had signed up for an on-site, two week Spa Treatment. Check-in began at 8:00 a.m. and ended at 10:00 a.m. At 10:30 a.m. the Spa Treatment began with a ninety-minute orientation that gave us an overview of our two weeks, what was expected of us, and rules and regulations. We were asked to write down our goals of the two week Spa Treatment. Then, we went to lunch.
Our lunch consisted of a Balsamic Strawberry and Spinach Salad and a Tropical Squeeze. The food was delicious, but many of us left the dining area with our stomachs grumbling for more food.
We were given an hour of free time, after lunch. Some of us walked around the grounds, enjoying the spa-luscious scenery. Some went to their bunks to rest and all of us went back to our bunks to read our days post. We were bunked in four groups of five and one group of six. We had learned in orientation that our schedules for each day would be posted on our outside walls.
My group was scheduled for a 2:00 p.m. deep massage, which felt great and left me feeling like a soft stick of butter, which was good, because I needed all the limberness I could get. My groups 3:00 p.m. class was yoga, which I enjoyed thoroughly, then we relaxed into a thirty-minute guided meditation. Four o’clock was shower time, then we all met in the conference room at 5:00 p.m., to talk about our day, and write how we felt, so far.
Six p.m. was dinner time. We all enjoyed an appetizer of Baked Tomatoes, followed by an entrée of Grilled Wild Salmon on Red Bell Pepper and Dill Sauce with Stir Fried Bok Choy. Then we all had a cleansing Cocktail. After dinner, we all went on a guided tour of the grounds of the Spa Treatment. We did some stretching exercises, before we were released at 8:00 p.m. with lights out at 10:00 p.m.
Every day classes were at different times and with members of other groups, so we all could get to know each other. Some days, I went to massage, other days I went to manicure, pedicure, mud facials, etc… We enjoyed different foods every day. Some days we worked on Body Core Exercises, and other days we worked with weights, but there was some form of yoga and meditation every day.
By the end of the first week, six women had checked-out and gone home. By the end of the second week, there was fifteen women left to graduate. On the morning of the last day, we were all given our sheets we had written our goals on, on the first day. I had written that I wanted to lose 10 pounds, so I was astounded to find, when they weighed us all, that I had lost twenty-six pounds. Granted a good bit of it was due to losing water weight, but I had a good background to keep working from.

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