DWednesday, May 8, 2013
“Silver Lining” is a prospect of hope or comfort in a gloomy situation. [1870-75; from the proverb “Every cloud has a silver lining”] *
* Random House Kernerman Webster’s College Dictionary, © 2010 K Dictionaries Ltd. Copyright 2005, 1997, 1991 by Random House, Inc. All rights reserved.
•Share a picture of a silver lining situation
•Share a personal situation involving silver linings
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My first marriage was 20 years of ‘Hell’. Of course, there were good times, but the bad far outweighed the good. I was pregnant and married at the young age of 17. He, (my first husband), was 24 y/o and an alcoholic. I had never been around drinking and had no idea, at that time, what an alcoholic was, but I learned fast.
At first, I thought it was cool, especially after my daughter’s birth and I could drink, too. ‘Look at me! I’m out from under mom and dad now, and I can drink and smoke and be all cool.’ Of course, that didn’t last long. My first husband worked only when he wanted to and quit several jobs during our first year of marriage. I soon knew that one of us had to grow up and make a living and it looked like that someone was going to be me.
I dropped my dream of finishing college, got a factory job, worked hard, and a lot of overtime hours. Sometimes, I would get lolled into a comfort zone when he held a job for several months at a time. I would start back to college, taking classes at night and working during the day, but that would never last. Eventually, he would always get mad and quit. Then he would stay drunk for weeks at a time. I could depend on him for nothing and started looking for a way out, but every time I would pack up and leave him, he would talk me into coming back, saying he would quit drinking.
Things might be fine for a month or so, and then it would go back to the same old, same old. At one point, I did file for divorce, but my grandfather talked me out of it. He believed in family and he believed in me and I couldn’t let him down. I just resigned myself, at that time, to tough it out. I worked and tried to look the other way when he was cheating, drinking, and not working. I lost all respect for him and once that is gone it is hard to love somebody.
When he noticed that I was no longer noticing him, he straightened up for awhile. This time it lasted about 3 years and my second daughter was born during that time, but nothing lasts forever and eventually he got mad and quit work again. Then the drinking started again and it got so bad that he was wetting the bed every night. By that time, I was just plain disgusted.
My oldest daughter had graduated high school and was going away to college. I had enough money put back and was making good money. I knew I could make it on my own with my younger daughter, so I asked him to move out. Then, after 6 months of separation, I filed for divorce. This time there was no going back. There was nothing, no feelings, no nothing to go back to.
Two years after my divorce was final, I met my current husband. I knew he was going to be my silver lining. He was retired from the military and still worked a full-time job. His work ethic, his big strong shoulders drew me to him. I was so tired and I needed those big shoulders to carry me for awhile. Another plus, was that he didn’t drink. We have an occasional beer or glass of wine, but that’s it.
We have been together for 15 years, married for 14, and he is still my silver lining, every day.
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